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Infidelity Counselling in Singapore: A Path to Forgiveness and Healing

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The Devastating Consequences of Infidelity and the Quest for Healing

Infidelity is a complex and deeply personal topic, evoking intense emotions and penetrating the core of trust in relationships.”

Infidelity penetrates the very core of trust and emotional connection.
When infidelity occurs, it shakes the foundation of trust and emotional connection, leaving individuals struggling with hurt, anger, confusion, and shame. The impact goes beyond immediate pain, triggering psychological consequences that affect self-worth, security, and trust in others.

In Singapore, cultural norms and societal expectations can further complicate the experience. The potential stigma surrounding relationship struggles, coupled with the impact on extended families and social harmony, can leave individuals feeling isolated and uncertain about seeking support.

Recent statistics from the Singapore Department of Statistics reveal that infidelity is a prevalent issue, with “Infidelity or extra-marital affairs” cited as the foremost reason for divorce among both men (18.6%) and women (19.3%) in 2022.

Despite these challenging circumstances, healing is possible, and taking that first step toward healing is a courageous move toward reclaiming trust and rebuilding relationships. 

Navigating the Emotional Fallout

The discovery of infidelity can be overwhelming, and it’s normal to feel a range of emotions, including hurt, anger, shame, or even guilt. Singapore’s cultural context may present unique challenges, as the desire to maintain harmony and “save face” can hinder open expression. Know that you are not alone in these feelings; it takes strength to acknowledge and address them. 

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Infidelity often stems from a complex mix of motivations, including feelings of dissatisfaction, neglect, anger, a lack of emotional connection or commitment, low self-esteem, and a desire for novelty or excitement. Additionally, situational factors and individual personality traits can also play a role. To effectively address the emotional aftermath and rebuild trust, it’s essential to understand the underlying reasons behind the infidelity.

Understanding the Psychological Impact

Infidelity can have profound psychological effects, and it’s crucial to address them. You may question your self-worth, struggle with trust issues, or even experience anxiety or depression. These reactions are normal and understandable. Everyone copes differently; some may turn inward, reflecting and seeking personal growth, while others externalize their emotions. Recognizing and ensuring healthy coping mechanisms is essential for overall wellness, encompassing our emotional, cognitive, and relational health.

Cultural and Societal Influences

Singapore’s cultural norms and societal expectations can indeed influence how individuals experience infidelity. The stigma around relationship problems may deter people from seeking help, impacting extended families and social circles within tight-knit communities. Additionally, cultural values and expectations of harmony may contribute to a sense of isolation and uncertainty when facing infidelity. Recognizing these unique cultural influences is vital for effective healing and personal growth. 

Taking the First Step: Reach Out for Support

Embark on the journey to healing. Counselling guides you towards recovery and move forward.

You don’t have to navigate the aftermath of infidelity alone. Counselling can provide a safe and confidential space to explore your emotions and embark on the healing process.

Our counselling centre specializes in supporting individuals affected by infidelity, offering culturally sensitive guidance and support tailored to your unique needs. Our experienced therapists are here to guide you through this challenging yet rewarding journey, helping you make sense of your emotions and rebuild trust in yourself and others.

Image showing a couple sitting close together, hand-in-hand, on a couch in a therapist's office. Both individuals appear engaged in conversation, with expressions of empathy and understanding. Their body language suggests a sense of reconciliation and mutual effort to heal their relationship after experiencing the pain of infidelity.
In the aftermath of infidelity, counselling acts as the architect of renewal, reshaping the foundation of trust and intimacy brick by brick, forging a future where scars become testaments to the strength of your bond.

What Counselling Can Do for You?

Engaging in counselling after experiencing infidelity offers a range of advantages and supports your journey toward healing:

  • Healing and Guidance: Our counselling centre provides a safe and non-judgmental space for you to process emotions, understand your thoughts, and begin the healing journey. Our experienced therapists guide you through this challenging time, offering culturally sensitive support tailored to your unique needs.
  • Improved Self-Worth: Through counselling, you can work on rebuilding self-worth, self-love, and a positive sense of identity. Our counsellors help you recognize your value and support your personal growth.
  • Trust and Relationship Repair: Counselling can assist in exploring and rebuilding trust, both within yourself and in your relationships. We guide you in repairing damaged relationships or letting go of unhealthy ones, fostering healthier connections.
  • Coping Mechanisms: Our counsellors provide you with healthy coping mechanisms to manage difficult emotions and situations effectively. We tailor our approaches to your needs, ensuring you develop tools that work for you.
  • Personal Growth: Counselling encourages self-reflection, personal growth, and the development of new perspectives. We help you make sense of your experiences and move forward with resilience and strength.

Prioritize Your Emotional Wellbeing

Image: Loving couple walking hand in hand. Reconciliation is possible even after an affair.
Through forgiveness and understanding, the broken pieces can mend. Reconciliation is possible even after an affair.

If you or a loved one is struggling, taking that first step is crucial to your healing journey. Contact our counselling centre today to reclaim your trust, confidence, and joy. Our compassionate team is dedicated to guiding you through this challenging yet rewarding process, ensuring you receive the support tailored to your unique needs and circumstances. 

Hope and Healing Are Within Reach

Infidelity can shake the foundations of your life, but it need not define your future. With personalized support from our qualified professionals, you can navigate the emotional fallout and rebuild a stronger, more resilient version of yourself.

Remember, healing is always possible, and taking that first step toward guidance is a courageous choice that can lead to reclaiming trust and rebuilding relationships. 

References

Abrahamson, I., Hussain, R., Khan, A., & Schofield, M. J. (2011). What helps couples rebuild their relationship after infidelity? Journal of Family Issues, 33(11), 1494–1519. https://doi.org/10.1177/0192513×11424257

Evason, N. (2022). Singaporean Culture: Family. Cultural Atlas. Retrieved May 2, 2024, from https://culturalatlas.sbs.com.au/singaporean-culture/singaporean-culture-family

Fife, S. T., Gossner, J., Theobald, A., Allen, E., Rivero, A., & Koehl, H. (2023). Couple healing from infidelity: A grounded theory study. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, 40(12), 3882–3905. https://doi.org/10.1177/02654075231177874

Guitar, A.E., Geher, G., Kruger, D.J. et al. Defining and Distinguishing Sexual and Emotional Infidelity. Curr Psychol 36, 434–446 (2017). https://doi.org/10.1007/s12144-016-9432-4

Pramudito, A. A., & Minza, W. M. (2021). The dynamics of rebuilding trust and trustworthiness in marital Relationship post infidelity disclosure. Jurnal Psikologi/Jurnal Psikologi, 48(2), 16. https://doi.org/10.22146/jpsi.60974

Selterman, D., Garcia, J. R., & Tsapelas, I. (2019). Motivations for Extradyadic Infidelity Revisited. Journal of sex research, 56(3), 273–286. https://doi.org/10.1080/00224499.2017.1393494

Singapore Department of Statistics. (2023). Statistics on Marriages and Divorces, 2022. Retrieved May 2, 2024, from https://www.singstat.gov.sg/publications/population/marriages-and-divorces

Singaporean Culture: Core concepts. (2015). Cultural Atlas. Retrieved May 2, 2024, from https://culturalatlas.sbs.com.au/singaporean-culture/singaporean-culture-core-concepts

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    Stielmond Ng, Principal Clinical Therapist
    Master of Counselling (Monash University, Australia), Prin­ci­pal Clin­i­cal Hyp­nother­a­pist, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) Practitioner, Motivational Interview (MI) Practitioner. Bachelor in Information Technology, (CQU).

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